When spouses become strangers

Sometimes we get so engrossed in our day to day routine we tend to forget the pleasures and focus only on the responsibilities.

A casualty of this attitude : slow killing of those relationships which at one point were the most important to us.

A manifestation of this is common to women with the responsibility of work and kids and managing a  household, not to mention keeping up with social schedules. You know what happens often? Their relationship with their husband suffers.

The person who once wooed you on his knees, and with whom you would exchange sweet nothings etc.. transformed into a sperm donor and a household expense provider. Perhaps, one day, when the kids have flown the nest and ambition ( or lack of) no longer drives you at work, you will look at him once again. But then, he would be middle aged and so wouild you be, and you will have rheumy eyes, and would you be able to do the same things together again?

This post is a kind of wake-up call to all women ( and men) who are forgetting to look at their spouse because they are so busy getting on with their lives otherwise. Its not just twice in a year ( birthday and anniversary) that I am talking about – it is everyday.

I know how it is to get caught up – but I think we can rouse ourselves before it is too late, get out of our jombie state and start loving again.

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7 thoughts on “When spouses become strangers

  1. Mini March 8, 2010 / 12:11 pm

    A sensitive post. My hubby is surprised at the extra attention he gets these days 🙂

  2. lostonthestreet March 20, 2010 / 8:47 am

    Baapre.Emotional post.

  3. the mad momma March 22, 2010 / 10:45 am

    that happened to us 4 years ago. a swift kick in the pants usually brings them back from sperm donor to man on his knees. :p

  4. kopili March 22, 2010 / 11:05 am

    Hmm.. shall seriously consider the kick in the pants. Though often, I find myself being the one who’s doing the “ignoring” 🙂

    • the mad momma March 22, 2010 / 11:27 am

      LOL! in that case, pass my suggestion on to him!

  5. BD April 14, 2010 / 4:35 am

    But you dont have a job…

  6. kopili April 14, 2010 / 10:06 am

    BD: really? I think that depends on your definition of a job. Sometimes you may be employed but don’t really have a job to do, and sometimes you are not employed ( or self-employed) and have lots of jobs to do.

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