“Your relationship with work has always been turbulent” was my husband’s observation a few days back, and that is absolutely true. I have had a love-hate (mostly hate) relationship when it comes to work, and I figured now is as good a time as any to think back on why.
The crux of it would be lack of patience – with people/ processes/ products situations. I wanted things to happen today/ no now. Including my promotions – they had to happen at the pace of the best performer in office while I would be actually performing at half that person’s. The real problem now that I think about it is – I wanted something to be happenning around me (or to me) all the time. Which is why I changed 4 jobs in the last ten years I guess.
The problem with this attitude is that things don’t happen around you all the time. At work, as at life in general, there will be happenning times and there will be dreadfully boring times.
How to keep yourself occupied during those awfully boring times is actually what will determine your mental health (and those of your loved ones!).
Keeping yourself mentally challenged/ occupied/ engaged when there are no external stimuli (some bit of creativity needed here) is a very very important life skill. If someone does not have the natural inclination for that he or she needs to be taught how to. If you, like me, were trained for the first 20 years of your life to do what you were told, you would be in an awful lot of trouble later on in life when there would not be anybody telling you what to do.
So start practicing being with yourself more and being satisfied with that!